# Big wedding vs first home - what would you pick? **URL:** \ **Category:** General Chat\ **Created:** [July 5, 2021, 10:13am UTC](https://community.emma-app.com/t/big-wedding-vs-first-home-what-would-you-pick/4366 "2021-07-05T10:13:12Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 11\ **Page:** 1
**Author:** ![rebekah](https://yyz2.discourse-cdn.com/flex030/user_avatar/community.emma-app.com/rebekah/32/1091_2.png) [@rebekah](https://community.emma-app.com/u/rebekah)\ **Post date:** [July 5, 2021, 10:13am UTC](https://community.emma-app.com/t/big-wedding-vs-first-home-what-would-you-pick/4366/1 "2021-07-05T10:13:12Z")
According to [new research by Halifax](https://www.lloydsbankinggroup.com/media/press-releases/2021/halifax/couples-choose-first-homes-over-big-weddings.html), 18-44-year olds are skipping big weddings in favour of buying their first home. Of those interviewed, only 29% of people said a wedding was money well spent, compared to 63% who said owning their own home was worth the money šŸ’° With the average wedding costing Ā£18,000 and the average house deposit at Ā£50,000, many people canā€™t afford to do both. Would you choose a first home over a big wedding? _Poll ([view on site](https://community.emma-app.com/t/big-wedding-vs-first-home-what-would-you-pick/4366/1))_ ---
**Author:** ![Mxchris](https://yyz2.discourse-cdn.com/flex030/user_avatar/community.emma-app.com/mxchris/32/231_2.png) [@Mxchris](https://community.emma-app.com/u/Mxchris)\ **Post date:** [July 5, 2021, 4:07pm UTC](https://community.emma-app.com/t/big-wedding-vs-first-home-what-would-you-pick/4366/2 "2021-07-05T16:07:35Z")
Thereā€™s a show on Netflix when a couple have to choose between a wedding or a house. To me, itā€™s a no brainer but then I donā€™t have a romantic bone in my body. ---
**Author:** ![rebekah](https://yyz2.discourse-cdn.com/flex030/user_avatar/community.emma-app.com/rebekah/32/1091_2.png) [@rebekah](https://community.emma-app.com/u/rebekah)\ **Post date:** [July 5, 2021, 4:19pm UTC](https://community.emma-app.com/t/big-wedding-vs-first-home-what-would-you-pick/4366/3 "2021-07-05T16:19:29Z")
Just googled and Iā€™m guessing this is the show youā€™re talking about? Looks like the rubbish kind of TV I enjoy watching haha šŸ˜† > **[Marriage or Mortgage | Netflix Official Site](https://www.netflix.com/title/81113929)** > > A wedding planner and a real estate agent compete to win the hearts and budgets of spouses-to-be. Will they pick fairy-tale nuptials or a dream home? I think the thing about weddings is that everything seems to be unnecessarily expensiveā€¦? i.e it costs three times as much to hire a space for a wedding, than it would for any other type of event ---
**Author:** ![Mxchris](https://yyz2.discourse-cdn.com/flex030/user_avatar/community.emma-app.com/mxchris/32/231_2.png) [@Mxchris](https://community.emma-app.com/u/Mxchris)\ **Post date:** [July 5, 2021, 4:52pm UTC](https://community.emma-app.com/t/big-wedding-vs-first-home-what-would-you-pick/4366/4 "2021-07-05T16:52:42Z")
Yes, thatā€™s the show. No idea why weddings cost so much. Not going to be having one, unless someone else is going to be paying for it. šŸ˜‚ ---
**Author:** ![Recchan](https://yyz2.discourse-cdn.com/flex030/user_avatar/community.emma-app.com/recchan/32/444_2.png) [@Recchan](https://community.emma-app.com/u/Recchan)\ **Post date:** [July 5, 2021, 6:04pm UTC](https://community.emma-app.com/t/big-wedding-vs-first-home-what-would-you-pick/4366/5 "2021-07-05T18:04:59Z")
Iā€™d do both. Never settle. Thereā€™s always a way to make a quid or two šŸ™‚ could probably do 100-200 a month from surveys alone and pair that with a side job & some crypto loans (8-10% APR). Itā€™d take a while but youā€™d do both within some years, if you really wanted to shoulder the burden But who could let their prospective Mrs down if they wanted a wedding? I couldnā€™t bare the thought of moving into that commitment with her already disappointed about something šŸ˜¬ ---
**Author:** ![rebekah](https://yyz2.discourse-cdn.com/flex030/user_avatar/community.emma-app.com/rebekah/32/1091_2.png) [@rebekah](https://community.emma-app.com/u/rebekah)\ **Post date:** [July 6, 2021, 8:34am UTC](https://community.emma-app.com/t/big-wedding-vs-first-home-what-would-you-pick/4366/6 "2021-07-06T08:34:07Z")
> [@Mxchris](#): > > unless someone else is going to be paying for it. šŸ˜‚ Yeah, isnā€™t it tradition for the brideā€™s family to pay for most of the wedding? Not sure how often that actually happens thoughā€¦? šŸ˜… ---
**Author:** ![Mxchris](https://yyz2.discourse-cdn.com/flex030/user_avatar/community.emma-app.com/mxchris/32/231_2.png) [@Mxchris](https://community.emma-app.com/u/Mxchris)\ **Post date:** [July 6, 2021, 8:46am UTC](https://community.emma-app.com/t/big-wedding-vs-first-home-what-would-you-pick/4366/7 "2021-07-06T08:46:52Z")
I think that itā€™s a tradition thatā€™s slowly dying out. Itā€™s seems that the bride and groom pay for most, if not all, and the parents, if any, chip in what they can. ---
**Author:** ![edoardomoreni](https://yyz2.discourse-cdn.com/flex030/user_avatar/community.emma-app.com/edoardomoreni/32/9_2.png) [@edoardomoreni](https://community.emma-app.com/u/edoardomoreni)\ **Post date:** [July 7, 2021, 8:22am UTC](https://community.emma-app.com/t/big-wedding-vs-first-home-what-would-you-pick/4366/9 "2021-07-07T08:22:44Z")
I wouldnā€™t pick either. šŸ˜‚ ---
**Author:** ![rebekah](https://yyz2.discourse-cdn.com/flex030/user_avatar/community.emma-app.com/rebekah/32/1091_2.png) [@rebekah](https://community.emma-app.com/u/rebekah)\ **Post date:** [July 7, 2021, 8:25am UTC](https://community.emma-app.com/t/big-wedding-vs-first-home-what-would-you-pick/4366/10 "2021-07-07T08:25:12Z")
> [@jase](#): > > Plus then thereā€™s the cost of kids and they are hella expensive šŸ¤·ā€ā™‚ļø Just had a quick look into reports about the cost of raising a child and [CPAG](https://cpag.org.uk/policy-and-campaigns/cost-child#:~:text=The%20Cost%20of%20a%20Child%20in%202019,-04%20September%202019&text=Our%20annual%20Cost%20of%20a%20Child%20report%20this%20year%20finds,up%205.5%25%20since%202012) is showing the figures below. Over Ā£8k a year for a couple, over Ā£10k if youā€™re a single parent. (Based on paying for food, clothing, heating bills, birthday presents, and a weekā€™s selfā€catering holiday in the UK once a year) šŸ‘‡ > The latest report in our annual _Cost of a Child_ series finds that the overall cost of a child up to age 18 (including rent and childcare) is Ā£185,000 for lone parents (up 19% since 2012) and Ā£151,000 for couples (up 5.5% since 2012). ---
**Author:** ![rebekah](https://yyz2.discourse-cdn.com/flex030/user_avatar/community.emma-app.com/rebekah/32/1091_2.png) [@rebekah](https://community.emma-app.com/u/rebekah)\ **Post date:** [July 7, 2021, 8:44am UTC](https://community.emma-app.com/t/big-wedding-vs-first-home-what-would-you-pick/4366/12 "2021-07-07T08:44:31Z")
Wow is that how much it costs?! Itā€™s a lot of money, but itā€™ll be 100% worth it šŸ™Œ ---
**Author:** ![rebekah](https://yyz2.discourse-cdn.com/flex030/user_avatar/community.emma-app.com/rebekah/32/1091_2.png) [@rebekah](https://community.emma-app.com/u/rebekah)\ **Post date:** [July 7, 2021, 1:43pm UTC](https://community.emma-app.com/t/big-wedding-vs-first-home-what-would-you-pick/4366/14 "2021-07-07T13:43:38Z")
Hahah love that - 2 for 1 šŸ˜